We live in a YES world. I've said "yes" to things that have hindered my growth as a professional and as a mother, wife and human being.
I've listened to the wrong people and got nowhere. I listened to my own limiting thoughts. But somewhere along the way,
I WOKE UP!
I realized the common denominator was me. ME! I was the reason I wasn't getting anywhere. Ugh. Talk about humbling.
The realization that it was ME standing in my own way, was humiliating! I've felt like an idiot at times. But realizing that I was/am the one responsible for not getting anywhere with my life, health, and professional goals is also empowering.
I became empowered when I realized I could control MYSELF way more than I can control another person or system.
The thing is, most of us don't recognize what or who is limiting us. To know that, you have to strip yourself bare and peel back the layers to find what's holding you back. Is it the people around you? Is it a system you've bought into? Is it YOU? Is it one thought?
Be brutally honest with yourself as you ask yourself these questions. Hire a psychiatrist or life coach if you need to. But get to the bottom of what it is and don't stop searching until you find it.
Only once you begin to question everything, can you begin to do the work it takes to be exactly what or who you want to be.
You're going to feel isolated in this process, because very few people are willing to do it and almost no one will understand you.
I get it. I've been criticized and laughed at when I've told people what my goals and aspirations are. I've been dismissed and ignored. I've been made to feel uncomfortable when I've said NO to something that didn't serve me well. But I stay the course and I do the work.
Very few people will get into the work and realize there's just 1 or 2 things they need to change. More likely, there's going to be quite a few things you need to change and that's hard. It will feel overwhelming. You can choose not to bother. You can convince yourself that you can't deal with the overwhelming right now. But, beware!
That's your limited belief system talking.
Your limited belief system is your problem and no one else's. So if that's where you choose to stay, you're going to become more and more limited with each passing day. You have to live with that.
YOU HAVE A CHOICE.
Live in the discomfort of your limiting beliefs, and continue to just sort of float through life... Or, challenge your limiting beliefs every single day and do the opposite of what those thoughts tell you.
Ask yourself this. Do you want to survive life or do you want to thrive?
Are you willing to eat, sleep, think and act differently? Are you willing to get uncomfortable in a whole new way?
Or are you going to settle with the same old discomfort of complacency that you're used to? Are you ok with not getting what you really want or are you ready to get uncomfortable enough to go for it?
Challenging your limiting beliefs is HARD! It will be brutal, infuriating and you will probably shed tears along the way as you say good bye to things that don't serve you.
You're going to want to give up.
This is where NO comes in.
Say NO to anything or anyone who threatens to hold you back. Say YES to whatever will propel you.
Accept that you're going to be and feel awkward.
Then be a sponge and soak up all of this newness. Be ready to learn everything you can. Be ready to experience new things.
Be ready to repeat the process as many times as necessary throughout this life.
There is no end to growth.
Now, get out there and get uncomfortable!